1. Have I given first place in my heart and life to God or anything else e.g. persons, organizations, ideals, power or position, wealth, beauty, health childern, wife, husband, parents etc?

"Do not love the world or the things in the world. The love of the Father is not in those who love the world; for all that is in the world - the desire of the flesh, the desire of the eyes, the pride in riches - comes not from the father but from the world." (1 John 2:15-16)

"...for my people have commited two evils: they have forsaken me, the fountain of living water, and dug out cisterns for themselves, cracked cisterns that can hold no water." (Jermiah 2:13)

Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.